OK… maybe not you exactly, but according to the survey we recently did, which by the way thank-you to all who participated. We had a great response and learned a ton of useful information about what you want and need most as a parent. One of the questions we asked was this; from a list of ten options, “Which are the top three areas you’d most like to grow in as a parent.” Here were the ten options we gave you
- Character Development
- First Time Obedience
- Getting Respectful Behavior
- My Child’s Sleep Training
- Parenting a Teenager
- Raising an Athlete
- School Issues
- Sibling Rivalry
- Spiritual Training
If you didn’t get to participate, we’d be interested to hear if you agree with your fellow readers. But according to you, the top 3 answers were… cue the drumroll…
- Spiritual Training – 6 out of 10 felt this was a top 3 area!
- Character Development – still over half had this in their top 3!
- A virtual tie between – First Time Obedience and Getting Respectful Behavior
We were mildly surprised that Spiritual Training came out number one. Not because we don’t believe it deserves to be the top priority, but because it was listed as an area of desired growth. In other words, there is at least a perceived sense of needing to improve in this area. When we teach our parenting seminar, which will be released soon as an eBook series, we boldly proclaim the most important thing to teach your child is to love God. Obviously for us our faith informs this choice of #1. But we would encourage you, regardless of where you are in your faith journey, it is important for your child to know the world doesn’t revolve around him or her. They need to know there is something… someone… bigger than them. We can’t wait to share some of the ways we were very intentional as we raised our kids. It was important for our kids to know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, what was most important to us. We knew one day they would have to decide for themselves, but not without first having a strong foundation laid.
Congratulations on choosing Character Development as one of the top three! When the Barna group did research on what they called “Spiritual Champions” one of their key findings was around this idea of character development. In the world of surveys and statistics whenever they find 100% agreement on anything surveyors take notice. Character development was one of those areas. More accurately what they discovered was every parent of a spiritual champion, 100%, every last one of them, said training kids in character development was the most important task as a parent! So basically you all agree with the parents of spiritual champions… not bad! And we can’t wait to share with you some great strategies for developing strong character in your children.
Number three was no surprise. These two items are certainly related. The bible says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” . We often ask parents, “Do you want it to go well for your children?” A rhetorical question. Of course we want it to go well for our kids. Then teach them to honor you, to obey you and to be respectful of you. First time obedience might sound like a pipe dream but we promise you, it is not only possible, but pretty simple to achieve. There is a chance not only are you not training them to be obedient, but you are actually training them to be disobedient! Yikes! Don’t worry, we’re not suggesting you’re do that on purpose. We want to teach you how to stop teaching them to be disobedient and instead teach them to obey you the first time you ask with a happy heart!
So again, thank-you to those who were able to complete the survey. We are so excited for what’s to come. Our free podcast, “Parenting with Truth and Grace” will launch in the next several days so please be on the lookout for that. We will have a free webinar on Effective Discipling in the next several weeks and any day now we will launch the first in our eBook series, “The Three Most Important Things to Teach Your Child!”
If you didn’t get a chance to take the survey but would like to give us some feedback, we’d love to hear from you. What are the top three areas you’d like to grow in as a parent? What are your top three fears with your kids? What would you most like us to help you with as a parent? Can’t wait to hear from you!