- For the first time in US history women are the majority of the work force
- Most Managers are now women
- For every two men who get a college degree, three women do the same
A couple of years ago the Atlantic ran a story titled “The End of Men”. The article gave the telling update of the gender wars and all the headway women have made in the last 25 years. I was filled with excitement for our daughters and their bright future; and fear for our sons and their pending doom. Much to my dismay, it offered little hope of a world where both genders could be educated, heard, loved and respected. It is sad to think we have to emphasize one gender at the expense of the other academically, relationally, occupationally and spiritually.
The reason I’m so passionate about this subject!
How might we rescue the boys as we did the girls and not cause the demise of the girls again? Many would say boys are getting what they deserve for their aggressive, oversexed personalities and overactive behavior. Mothers, if you have sons, are you at all worried they are in danger of being neutered, labeled and swept under the rug of defeat? You should check out the new book, Strong Mothers/Strong Sons.
Are we being intentional about growing men who are adventurous, brave and independent? (Take a look at “The Overprotected Kid”) Have you considered these are your daughter’s prospective husbands? These are the fathers of your grandchildren. In many ways we are systematically removing the opportunity for a boy to compete, take risks, protect and provide? (Take a look at: “The Importance of Taking Risks”)
WAKE UP PARENTS!!! We have to stop the systemic harm we are causing our sons!! We have to advocate for our boys. They need recess and movement. Boys often times learn differently than girls. Medication can’t be our first choice because they seem too active. (Check out the books Boys Adrift and Brain Rules)
I am not saying our boys don’t need to learn self control and how to focus to learn a lesson or hear a message. But we shouldn’t take away competition and the idea of learning by doing. In many ways we are raising the very young men we are complaining about. Our sons are 20 something and adrift; while parents continue footing the bill!!! We have young men proclaiming to be adults, but guess what the answer is when we ask, “Who is paying your cell phone bill?”
Perhaps scariest to me is NO ONE is talking about this at home, in school, at church, at work etc. Does this bother anyone else? Is anyone else worried?
So please, read the suggested material and watch the Youtube “The War on Boys”. Maybe I am off my rocker, but I don’t want to be asleep and miss opportunity to stand up for our boys!!!
Do you think our boys today are at a disadvantage in school, at home and at church? What do you think our response should be?