Have you ever wondered what it takes to be really effective at disciplining your children? Have you ever worried, that having a disciplined child meant you had become an authoritarian tyrant? Did you know that disciplining your children well can actually bring you closer to you kids?
Today we present the final five of our nine Foundational Principles for Effective Disciplining. Last week we shared the first four in Episode #21.
- Childish Irresponsibility and Willful Defiance
- Use Natural consequences
- Child Specific consequences
- No Sanctuaries
If you would like to check out last weeks’ podcast here is that link:
In addition to sharing the final five principles, we’ve also provided you with a FREE pdf download with all nine foundational principles Click Here to Download. Download it, print it, and use it as a handy reference guide for your parenting. We won’t keep you waiting… next in our list of 9 principles for effective disciplining we have:
In other words don’t lie to your kids. If you threaten something, following through. It earns you credibility and the opposite will cause you to lose credibility.
2.) Refuse to Fight – Don’t Argue
Decide now that you won’t fight. It takes two people to fight. Just walk away until they are willing to have a respectful conversation with you.
3.) Major on Grace & Blessings
Disciplining your children can actually improve your relationship with them… but it requires that you spend 10X as much effort and time on affirming and blessing your children.
4.) Be Creative
Rather than have a standard list of offenses and consequences, be willing to think creatively about other ways to get the same message across to your kids.
5.) Compounding Consequences
A bad attitude because of a consequence doesn’t get you out of the consequence it just causes it to compound and get worse. Our children learn quickly that it doesn’t pay to cop an attitude with mom or dad.
The real message with discipling your children is an overarching principle that says, “I love you enough to help you learn to do the right thing.” Especially when our children are young, under seven, in those years when we are training by ACT Click Here for Your Free Ages & Life Stages PDF, we want to be quick to discipline. We’ve found the more intensely we were on it early on, the quicker we were able to relax as our children got older. Disciplining our kids is an act of love!
We’ve also created an eBook, Effective Discipline, which is part of our eSeries “Parenting With Truth & Grace. In it, we have put all of our best stuff when it comes to disciplining. It will be available for purchase next week. So stay tuned! In the mean time we hope you enjoy this week’s episode of “Parenting with Truth & Grace”. And make sure you download your free PDF.Click Here to Download
Also, stay tuned next week as we take on the controversial topic of spanking. Should we spank? Is it OK to spank? Is it against the law to spank? Is spanking effective? We hope you’ll come back again next week.
Until then, remember parenting is hard work. Navigating the tension between truth and grace in today’s culture is difficult. We want to do what is right, but we also want it to happen in a loving and caring way. That is the AXIS of Truth & Grace. Let us help you help you experience the fullness of parenting and family!