Parenting Tip of the Week:
Intentionally give your child three affirmations for every correction. Have you corrected your child for something today, then intentionally look for three things you can affirm in them today. The truth is, more than three is better, but commit to at least three. Don’t simply sandwich the correction with two nice things. The point is to be intentional about finding areas you can affirm in your child, preferably something they have control over (effort versus innate ability). The truth is, when correction is accompanied by a lot of affirmation, the correcting or disciplining will actually improve the relationship between parent and child. So parent your child… discipline them when necessary… but commit to giving them at least three affirmations for every correction.
Parenting Resource of the Week:
the book, Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family. We have read lots of parenting books and this is one of the most convicting, motivating and powerful yet!! It lays a great foundation if you are just starting out on your parenting journey but also helps correct some things if you have been parenting for a while! We highly recommend Paul Tripp’s “Parenting”!! Here’s what Francis Chan had to say, “This is the most meaningful book I have read all year. It is both theological and practical, a rare combination for a parenting book. I wish I could have read it twenty years ago.”
Dani’s Digs ~ Parenting Product of the Week:
You guys, I wish these post were accompanied by a cool #ad but I am not that cool yet! I am a stay at home mom hoping to reach just a few other parents with some cool products each week that have made my parenting journey a little less stressful and a little more put together (or at least that’s what I tell myself). With that said, this week I am so excited to share a product that I used every night when my son was born. As we all know we love keeping our newborn babies fresh and clean. With my daughter I hauled out the bath tub, checked the temperature of the water, heated up the bathroom, dried her towel to make sure she was getting the spa treatment. Welllllll unfortunately with my second, life got a little more hectic. I suddenly found myself throwing him in the kitchen sink when I remembered it had been a few days since I had given him a bath. Soon after his birth I found an awesome product called the PUJ bath. They come in different sizes and it is an insert FOR A SINK! Transforming almost any sink into this luxurious bath for your little one. It is padded, its compact, and super light. I literally kept mine on the wall on a command hook for bath time for the first few months of his life. It was so nice to be able to throw him in the kitchen sink and not have to pad the bottom with tons of towels that just made more laundry for me. I could pack it with me on any trips and it was user friendly for anyone I had to throw in charge of bath time. This brand PUJ has tons of other products but I absolutely loved my tub from them so check them out. Here’s the LINK.
Don and Renee live in Phoenix with their four children. They speak at marriage conferences and retreats around the country. Don has his doctoral degree in counseling psychology and a private practice in the Phoenix area. Renee speaks, leads and mentors women in both faith and marketplace settings.
Favorite Verse or Quote
Don- John 1:14….Who came from the Father full of grace and truth. Reminds me of what I should be full of rather than what I am often full of which is not truth and grace!!
Renee- Psalms 127:3 Children are a gift from the Lord. Parents are called to join with the Lord to steward these gifts for a season.
Don – I was too tired to be parenting, should have been pulled over after he barked at his sweet, tender Emma for getting out of bed.
Renee – When I was corrected by our youngest daughter for participating in road rage in her presence! She said, “Mom, you don’t have to do that.”
Parenting Ah-ha Moment
The humbling realization that I am my children’s pastor… helping them understand God and how life works.
Proudest Parenting Moment
After sharing with emotion a big disappointment, our teen son said, “If this is what God has for me, then I think it’s right”
Their son taking his sister to one of her events, then took both his sisters to dinner to talk about the night because his parents were working.
One thing they would do differently
Started earlier and done a better job teaching our children how to be good friends with each other, to forgive each other, to work hard with each other and to help each other.
Not be such a reactive parent.
Top 3 Priorities for parenting
Stay connected in each season and with each child. Talk with daughters and do something with sons.
Grow Godly worldview, character and heart for the underserved
Three affirmations to every one correction
Ask good questions to prepare, teach and correct.