I remember in 6thgrade, back when elementary school was K through 6. We always had a big end of the year assembly to honor the outgoing class, complete with a talent show and celebration. Honestly, I was a pretty good kid and probably had at least a couple of honors coming my way. BUT… right at the end of the year I got in trouble. I can’t even remember what it was that I did. All I remember was being sent to the principal’s office – Mr. North!
The main reason I can’t remember much about what I did, was because of how traumatic my punishment was. It was bad enough that I was going to miss the assembly and awards celebration. It was even worse that I was supposed to be performing in the talent show (I used to do a mean Samoan Fire Knife Dance).
But the ultimate trauma for me was Mr. North was going to call my parents! YIKES!!!
Over the years, as a parent, we’ve worked hard to foster a healthy relationship with our kids’ teachers. It’s important to us that we are partnered together in the development of our children. We practice and we teach the principle of, loco parentis, which is Latin for, “in place of the parents.” OK, maybe we don’t spend a lot of time with the whole Latin thing, but the principle absolutely.
We wanted our kids to know, when we weren’t there, the adult in charge had delegated authority from us. Trust me, I just made that sound way more formal than it ever was. What they usually heard was, “Unless it’s illegal or immoral, we expect you to say yes ma’am and follow directions.” It didn’t mean they couldn’t come talk to us about being treated unfairly. We’d always listen. But, our expectation was – until we got it cleared up, they were to live under the authority of, in the case of school, that teacher. Unless of course it was something illegal or immoral, then literally all bets were off.
So what does this have to do with getting sent to see Mr. North?
The other day, we were chatting with a teacher with an especially frustrating group of sixth graders. As she shared her story, our quick suggestion was, “Just call the parents!” Her response was equally quick, “I did, and the mom (we’ll call her Michelle) said, ‘I know, I was hoping you would talk to him.’”
Suddenly, I’m trying to picture Mr. North calling my parents and my mom saying to him, “I was hoping you’d talk to him!” There’s a saying about a really hot place getting frozen over… but seriously, I understood exactly where “Michelle” was coming from because we hear versions of that often. Maybe not to that extreme, but to some extent a feeling of I don’t know what to do with my child. I want them to thrive in school, but I’m not sure how to make that happen.
Which is why we’ve created our course, “How To Raise Kids That Thrive in School.” Several years ago, we wrote a book specifically about parenting a child in the public school. Thousands have read it and continue to read it. We’ve received wonderful reviews like this five star one from Sera:
What an excellent book and an easy, enlightening read! I feel empowered to do public school well with my kids. Really, this is a practical, down to earth manual for living out your faith in all walks of life, not just in the public school setting. This book really made me feel that it is not only doable to have my kids survive in the public school setting, but it also made me feel excited about the opportunities that lay ahead because of it.
If your kids are in private school or you home school, don’t stop reading yet. We’ve specifically designed this course to serve all parents. We know that 89% of American kids are still in the public school, so we continue to offer special help for those parents. But the truth is, when parents talk to us about parenting, many of the issues are the same regardless of school option. Questions about character development, discipline, sexuality, friends, siblings, parental respect etc. come up with home school kids and public school kids alike.
If you’ve bought all the books and feel like, I have all the information, then you really need to check out, “How to Raise Kids That Thrive in School.” We recorded a really short VIDEO, to explain why this course is different and how it can really transform your parenting.
If you’re parenting is going great and you just want to make it healthier, or you’re that parent, Michelle, hoping someone will talk to your child… then you need to check out this course.